What if our spiritual path leads to divorce?.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
“I’m writing because I feel I have a huge, life-altering decision before me.
I am 45 and have been married for over 20 years, with no children.
My husband is a really good guy and I believe he does love me.
The problem is that as I find myself more and more committed to a spiritual path, the differences between us become increasingly obvious.
I am an artist and now a healer.
The artist part he has generally been supportive of but the healer in me is something he has many, many issues with and it is causing a great distance between us.
He constantly makes snide remarks about “doing the good work” and resents the time and contributions I give to volunteering my gifts.
I so want a spiritual partner that I can share and explore this increasing awareness/consciousness with.
Someone who vibrates at the same level.
It is very upsetting to think that in order to continue to grow, I will have to leave this relationship behind.
I love him but the experiences that have opened my heart and soul over this past year have been nothing short of astonishing, inexplicable, and miraculous.
I imagine he is afraid of the changes in me that he doesn’t understand and doesn’t want to understand.
I see before me a life of wonder and possibility and I want to feel free to follow where it leads.
Someone to experience a new state of unity and bliss with would be wonderful but it is important enough to me to walk this path alone if I am meant to.
I guess I just don’t know how to go about this as it is a real fork in the road and a choice I never thought I would have to make.
Help.”
Response:
Whether your future growth continues with your husband or not, I couldn’t say.
But it is worth reexamining this idea that you believe your healing practice and ability can only grow if you are supported by your husband.
You are assuming that what you need is someone who “vibrates at the same level” as you regarding healing, but that is only what your mind believes it needs.
Maybe what you genuinely need is just this counterpoint influence from your husband to help you stabilize your skills and keep you spiritually humble.
You’d be surprised how many healers come into their full abilities with a partner or even the rest of their family dismissing the whole thing.
It’s a good lesson in detachment as well to realize that your effectiveness and well-being are not dependent upon anyone else’s approval.
There may be other issues that make your marriage problematic, but you needn’t presume that his endorsement of your healing is necessary for you two to have a loving, productive marriage.
Love,
Deepak
