Problem with Manager.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
I have a question. I moved from NYC to Houston about 9 months ago and the manager who moved me was happy at first and then I slowly figured his less than perfect management style. He has friends who are my peers who get promoted and recognized in cycles and are also given strategic opportunities and I am left wondering what I am doing here in the first place. I have rudely expressed this in my own way and then tried my best to see the best of him, but he always seems to have a trick up his sleeve. It is nothing short of deception riddled with complexity that is hard to figure. His indirect boss who was at first supportive now seems at loggerheads with me and I tried approaching the indirect boss’s boss and that seems to have to put off both these gentlemen.
Amidst all this, I wonder if I have had a hand in co-creating what I am seeing in my career now. I want to succeed but my path looks full of impediments that I am always trying to guard against. Could it be that I am the problem here?
Response:
Even if you are not the whole problem, undoubtedly your perception of the situation plays a large role in your difficulties. So it makes sense to work on yourself, because that is the only thing you actually have control over.
Start by asking yourself what your expectations were in moving to Houston, and whether those expectations were based on agreements or promises made to you. It seems from your letter that you were hoping for rapid promotion and greater recognition, otherwise you would not resent the advancement of your new peers. You see your manager as someone who is deceptive not forthcoming about what he expects of you. I’m confused as to why you wouldn’t have asked him why you were being moved from New York to Houston 9 months ago. There must have been some explanation. Also, your letter gives no indication at all what type of job you are doing, what your manager said to you or what you said to the manager. In your own way, perhaps you can see that you are very careful about withholding useful information too. You say that your path is full of impediments you are trying to guard against. Maybe it is the way you are guarding yourself around others that is creating your impediments.
Look for ways to open up with others and develop lines of trust and friendship. That will make communication more free and easy, and that should help you clarify your role at work and your standing with others in the company.
Love,
Deepak
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Problem with Manager.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
I have a question. I moved from NYC to Houston about 9 months ago and the manager who moved me was happy at first and then I slowly figured his less than perfect management style. He has friends who are my peers who get promoted and recognized in cycles and are also given strategic opportunities and I am left wondering what I am doing here in the first place. I have rudely expressed this in my own way and then tried my best to see the best of him, but he always seems to have a trick up his sleeve. It is nothing short of deception riddled with complexity that is hard to figure. His indirect boss who was at first supportive now seems at loggerheads with me and I tried approaching the indirect boss's boss and that seems to have to put off both these gentlemen.
Amidst all this, I wonder if I have had a hand in co-creating what I am seeing in my career now. I want to succeed but my path looks full of impediments that I am always trying to guard against. Could it be that I am the problem here?
Answer:
Even if you are not the whole problem, undoubtedly your perception of the situation plays a large role in your difficulties. So it makes sense to work on yourself, because that is the only thing you actually have control over.
Start by asking yourself what your expectations were in moving to Houston, and whether those expectations were based on agreements or promises made to you. It seems from your letter that you were hoping for rapid promotion and greater recognition, otherwise you would not resent the advancement of your new peers. You see your manager as someone who is deceptive not forthcoming about what he expects of you. I’m confused as to why you wouldn’t have asked him why you were being moved from New York to Houston 9 months ago. There must have been some explanation. Also, your letter gives no indication at all what type of job you are doing, what your manager said to you or what you said to the manager. In your own way, perhaps you can see that you are very careful about withholding useful information too. You say that your path is full of impediments you are trying to guard against. Maybe it is the way you are guarding yourself around others that is creating your impediments.
Look for ways to open up with others and develop lines of trust and friendship. That will make communication more free and easy, and that should help you clarify your role at work and your standing with others in the company.
Love,
Deepak
Hi I moved to a new department within my company, I am here for a year, I am a.Teamleader I have 6 people under me I previously had 12 staff under me, I worked very well and my manager was proud of me, when I left my team and manager even cried as she said I was a strong woker, at my job now I am a team leader for collections in the emmoluments attachment order department, I have woworked in law for many years, my manager now is very cold she talks to me and then about me,she does it to my whole team, we are 2 teamleader and the 1 team does receipting she has 2 staff and I do the drop offs, new implementations,queries and flagging of all codes, I feel like nothing I do is enough plus my team is not doing well with reaching Tagets I am blamed but I feel like something is missing, I no I`m a good team leader but I feel like she is damaging my spirits in a way, she tells me off infront of my team which make them think low of me, now she said she needs a action plan on how I`m Gonna make my team perform, she never really listens to wat I have to offer, I no she will still use her plan. I feel like leaving and looking for s something else but I`m so confused, I think that I`m the problem but I never had this problem before. I`m getting worried as I am so stressed my neck is worring me, I am a person that starts wrk at 6.30 when I was supposed to only start at 8 and I dnt belive in taking lunch, I try very hard but its not good enough
I`m so glad that I stumbled on this. What great thoughts and advice. Thank you.
I recently went through the same situation with my employer. I was the only African American at my company, and I can tell you that race certainly played a role in my dismissal. Just last week I was fired, but God is so good and so faithful that the next day I had received another job offer. I walked away with so many lessons from this situation, but what I can say is take it as a learning experience and walk away with your head held high. Watch and observe your co-workers down the every detail - photos of their family that they have on their desk, people they go to lunch with, things they`re working on, and make a more concerted effort to form "alliances" not friendships, with your co-workers. Sadly that`s how you have to play the game. But above all else believe in God and ask him to give you divine wisdom. He never fails!