Good and Evil People.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
My daughter (17) and I discuss about our approach to people. She firmly believes and insists on opening herself and her soul unconditionally to everybody regardless of who they are, evil to her is not to trust people, not to accept them in full. She does not want to listen to me when I talk about protecting herself, she says she does not want it because protection would mean closing her soul to people, they will feel it and relationships will not be pure and deep any longer… I would like to have your opinions and suggestions
Response:
First of all, congratulations on raising a daughter who has grown up in an environment that makes her feel safe and trusting. That is a rare accomplishment these days. Now, you are rightly concerned that as she is reaching adulthood and moving out into the world of strangers her innocence and trusting nature will not protect her from the very real dangers that exist outside the home.
Explain to her that developing safe and appropriate relationships with others doesn’t mean she needs to distrust them or assume the worst in them. When we get in the car we don’t assume we are going to get in a car crash, but we still wear our seat belt to be safe. Learning to be emotionally safe with others means she needs to wait to be open and vulnerable until she has a deep intuition that they are trustworthy. Being young and idealistic it will take some trial and error for her to gain the wisdom and experience before she can rely on her intuition. Unfortunately, there is no way to gain some of this knowledge without living life and learning from it, especially in matters of the heart. As she gets older she will learn who is safe and worthy of her emotional openness and who isn’t. Also, she may admire certain individuals with outgoing and expressive personalities—people who wear their heart on their sleeves—and think that is a model of openness and acceptance. It is a type of openness, but it is generally quite superficial, because what is being shared is passing enthusiasms and feelings, not the soul or the core sense of your Being. She will find that the meaningful soul connections with others happen automatically whether you feel you are open or not, protecting yourself or not. The true self or soul doesn’t need protection and it doesn’t need help in being open. That is its nature. But the tender feelings of the heart do need sensible protection when young until it gains more wisdom.
Love,
Deepak
protecting yourself is also an act of self love. unfortunately,this realization needs a few hard knocks
Do not teach her fear. The vibration of fear attracts life experiences that create more fear. Your daughter is still in touch with who and what we really are at our core and Kudos to you for not having guided her away from that as most are guided away. Let the fear stop with your generation with this beautiful gift of your daughter. I, too, have such a daughter. Fortunately, I learned of vibration and how things come to us in life so I was at ease when she went off to college trusting her high vibration and openness to others would only attract to her things that matched that. In December she graduated with honors from college after just 3 1/2 years. I met many of her friends from college as she would come home with a van full, they were attracted not only to her but to the atmosphere of love cultivated in our home. She attracted wonderful people to her and they tended to also want to `look out for her`. There are so many older adults in the world struggling to regain what your daughter has. Let her be. She is magnificent just as she is. Shout outs to my beautiful daughter and some of her wonderful friends, Courtney Broderick, Jabari Bunch, Abby Wolfenbarger, Kenneth Hill, Samantha Bolen, and so many more.
Hi Deepak, even if she doesn`t listen I think there is nothing wrong in reminding her to always be careful. I know it doesn`t look like it when I talk to my parents but I really appreciate that they are always there reminding me about the right things to do and giving me ideas to confront. The modern world works against our inner discipline so it` s good to have people around that remind us to stay on track as they do it out of sheer love and care for us.