Giving Without Expectation.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
Hi Deepak Thank you for all your inspirational words. I have this problem. I would like to give without expectation, but I end up getting angry and disappointed. I want appreciation or a thanks in return. When I don’t get it I feel used by the other person, but I wanted to give to begin with. I don’t know if it is good or bad, but the anger don’t feels good and I end up unhappy and in a bad mood. I end up don’t wanting to give and hold a grudge. I want to feel good about giving. Is it good to expect something from other people. I know other people have expectations to me in relationships. Any kind, family, my colleagues, my boss, or I could get fired. I want it to be fair, but feels like a demanding monster when I don’t get the response I wanted. I want.
Response:
It’s natural enough to want to see your generosity is acknowledged, but if you get angry when it isn’t, then this is something more than disappointment. Right now your motivation for selfless giving is an ideal that you want to achieve because in this perfect picture you feel like a good person. When the recipient doesn’t follow your ideal scenario, it thwarts your plan to feel like a better person and you get upset.
The real benefit of giving comes from knowing you have helped someone or made their life a little easier or happier. To really get a taste of that, start making your gifts anonymous whenever possible. When you remove the possibility of direct gratitude from the recipient, you will find it easier to experience the pure joy of giving. Once you are hooked on that, then in the future you will not care if anyone thanks you or not, because you have already had your reward in the act of giving itself.
Love,
Deepak
