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This question is about relationships and trust. I have been experiencing difficulty with a relationship between a guy and myself over the past six months or so. We are just friends, but the relationship has the potential to move to a more romantic connection based on a strong friendship. We care about and love each other deeply.

The problem is that I have had difficulty opening up to him as we have grown closer and, essentially have pushed him away. My fear is that this is permanent. I vowed to work on my issues, taking time away from the relationship, and told him that things would be easier for the both of us afterward. He will not speak to me anymore. I suspect that he is so sensitive, that anything I do just makes things worse. I feel like I am in quicksand and not able to make things better.

I know that men are actually more sensitive than women when they are completely vulnerable. Do you have any suggestions for how I can slowly build trust back with him and gently convince him to become open to the relationship being on the road to improvement? What are some things I can do show him that I am willing to open up?

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How does each body access this consciousness if t is non-local?
Does even life itself, the livingness of every creature, reside not in the body but in consciousness?
Finally, where is consciousness located in the non-local?

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I have always wondered-Why was MY spirit or soul chosen to be on the earth.

How does one know when they have truly discovered themselves; the person they were created to become, when our beliefs become our own, not what others have influenced us to think? What is the path to this elusive freedom of thought?

If we do something wrong in our lives that causes loss and changes our course, does that mistake change the path that was predetermined or is that mistake (that I now look back on with much regret) indeed part of our predetermined path?

Do you believe the there is now or will be a divine being in the future who will help humanity to usher in a new golden age and bring peace on Earth? Whether he is Jesus Christ, the future Buddha, Maitrey, Kalki or an Avatar.

What to do with worry as a Mother? It pains me to see how my son is fraught with always “having to be right”. I have listened to your words on surrendering being right – and I feel I somehow have failed because he is so caught up with his own opinion and being the only one who is right….and I worry about he will relate to others. Other than giving him your book – how can I think about my own role and cease the Mother Worry?

According to my understanding, after the ‘physical being’ transcends to the ‘non-physical’ (death as we know it), the soul can reincarnate, if it so desires. If the purpose of the soul is to reach higher states of enlightenment at each rebirth, would this not imply that the children of each progressive generation will be more ‘enlightened’ than the former generation and should this not ultimately lead to the extinction of selfishness and hate?
While this concept seems idealistic, it also seems very simplistic – or does it really? Why then would there be so much poverty and misery all over the world? And why does humanity seem to be degenerating? I’m trying to make sense of all this confusion.
How are we going to fix this?