Friday: The Law of Detachment
Allow yourself and others the freedom to be who they are. Do not force solutions – allow solutions to spontaneously emerge. Uncertainty is essential, and your path to freedom.
Deepak Chopra
June 19th, 2009
4Friday: The Law of Detachment
Allow yourself and others the freedom to be who they are. Do not force solutions – allow solutions to spontaneously emerge. Uncertainty is essential, and your path to freedom.
Deepak Chopra
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I find myself in a love relationship that seem every week we are at verbal war. I fel like I can’t trust him. I feel as though stayng with him will spell my demise. I don’t really know how to detach.
I think I have been forcing solutions.
I have been dealing with this for some time. For me as a highly sensitive person I get my feeling hurt a lot and on top of that I tend to be judgmental and if that’s not enough I tend to give a lot of advice when talking. I’m learning all this has to go. Good attentive non judgmental listening without the advice is what love is all about and if you do love someone it is necessary to suck it up and do the loving thing. Any and all objections one might raise to this suggestion (or truth) are not valid. It’s in doing the right thing for the other person is where our needs are met. They are not there to meet our needs, rather the opposite. There is a hard truth here that some come by naturally and others of us have to suffer to achieve it.
I’m torn. I have (had now) a best friend that refuses to understand that her constant “favor asking” is stifling. I consider myself to be a very giving and generous person….but this has gotten to the point of me allowing her lessons that she has to learn in life to constrain and detour my own growth. Does it make me a bad and ungiving person if i can’t seem to figure out how to make my boundaries for my own life and development clear and that if they are stepped on by someone who supposedly has my best interests at heart….it hurts me. I feel selfish for having to “nudge” her out of my life…..but the only thing that she wants to hear is that I’m sorry for telling her my needs for the relationship which hurt her.
Today, I will let go, and let God, in whatever form I may perceive.